_1 Whitening remedies for kicks that do not harm people In China where white is beautiful, the word white is definitely a beautiful synonym, and almost all women are obsessed with white. In this way, as long as you see or hear if there is any way to help skin whitening, you can definitely do […]
Frugal and natural eating habits benefit children for life Must the weight be “attained”? I took Beichen for a physical examination at the age of one. The doctor hurriedly read the data and said to me seriously, “You child is seriously underweight. Give him more to eat! “I didn’t get scared when I heard it. […]
American experts anti-aging 25 fresh tricks The latest, Harvard University nutrition professor Walter Willett suggested that the results of a number of medical experts in the United States, pointed out 25 tips for anti-aging. , you can refer to the official public physical parameter list. 1. Let the weight stay at 18 years old. You […]
Easy to slim down 6 kitchen fitness moves Urbanites often refuse to have time to exercise. If you go into the kitchen often, you can do the kitchen fitness as follows. Although the kitchen fitness is not strong enough, it can effectively stretch the whole body, eliminate fatigue, and combine kitchen fitness with washing vegetables […]
Self-massage cure my cervical spondylosis Cervical spondylosis is really unbearable. Because the neck is stiff, it can’t be swooped before, can’t be lifted backwards, the left can’t yield, the right can’t stretch, the rotation is difficult, the medicine, the injection, the plaster, can only be temporarily relieved, and the treatment is not cured for a […]
自我宽恕 职场人走出心理低潮 在企业培训时，我注意到前排有位男学员眉头深锁，闷闷不乐许久。于是我走到他面前，随着课程内容，问了他工作上近来的心情困扰。 这位男学员叹了口气回答：“唉!今天一早因为主管交待的事没能如期完成，被上司狠狠地骂了一顿，现在心情够恶劣的，谁叫我能力不够，一无是处呢?” 哇!好个严苛的结论“能力不够，一无是处”，这下心情怎么会有起色? 恐怕你也有过类似的经验，当自己身处压力之下时，就特别容易把周遭发生的事扭曲化，这就好像戴上了哈哈镜，放眼望去事事都变了形，于是作出跳跃式且不合逻辑的结论，例如： “我惹他生气了，这下他一辈子都会讨厌我”，要不，“完了，完了，一旦开始出错，就会一败涂地!!” 这些唐突而扭曲了的念头，往往会牵引出难以收拾的心情低潮，这是因为，我们的情绪是因着心中的想法而生的。同样的事件，发生在不同人的身上，会激发出不同的观点，也就造就了不同的情绪反应。 所以，真正决定你我情绪反应的，不是发生了什么事，而是我们怎么去诠释这些事件，对吧?! 既然想法会决定心情，因此我们如果想要避免心情一蹶不振，那可得仔细地防堵心中念头出现扭曲变形的惨状。 一起来看看，我们最可能出现的扭曲想法包括哪些： ? 非黑即白的二分法 例如：“我一无是处……”，“他表现真糟，完全没药可救……” 如果你习惯看事情就是非黑即白，凡事就只有两种状况，不是非常完美，就是非常糟糕，一点中间灰色地带也没有，那么就很可能会因为一个单一事件(他今天早上迟到)，而作出极端负面的评价(他完全无药可救)。但事实上，这样二分法的想法，只会让自己陷入情绪的死胡同而无法脱身。 ? 遽下定论 例如，“我看到总经理和部门经理在低声交谈──我就知道，他们一定是在讨论要解雇我的事，完了完了。” 有时候搞不好是因为自己心中有鬼先有了成见，一碰到状况就容易胡乱下结论，完全不管证据是否存在，甚至是先有了定论，才来找依据，结果当然会莫名其妙地赔上心情啦! ? 过分强调负面信息 例如，“我做对了一次又怎么样?那不算啦，我还是笨得要死!” 有些人对于自己的评分方式是“只看缺点，不看优点”。换句话说，对于自己所做的丰功伟业闭眼不看，认为“只是特例，不足为取”;然而要是过程中有些不尽完美之处，则是过目不忘，念念在兹。请你不妨也检查一下，对自己以及他人是否也常常只挑缺点呢? ? 责任个人化 有些人则是过分勇于负责，习惯把周遭所有不愉快的事件，都归咎于一己的不对，甚至于那些跟他们毫无关系的事情，他们也会挺身而出，担下所有的责任。常常个人化的人，典型的口头禅是：“这都是我的错!” ? 规则太过僵硬 有人就是死脑筋，认为应该按照某些严谨规则来过日子，对自己如此，也要求他人做到。所以他们常把“你应该……”“我不可以……”“我必须……”等口头禅挂在嘴边，像这样被许多固定规则包围的人，就很容易因为“应该”发生的事都没发生，而觉得生气或懊恼。 那么该怎么做，才能摆脱哈哈镜，让自己的想法恢复正常面貌? 其实不难，只要你一意识到自己又冒出了扭曲变形的念头，就立刻在心中大喊“暂停”，然后换上一些新的想法，来挑战原先的不合理念头。 例如，今早开会，你做完了业务简报，接着开口的经理却对你的简报内容表达不同的意见，于是你的反应是： (1)“唉!我真是一无是处，我应该要让他满意的。”(二分法，僵硬规则)。 正确的想法是： “这个案子本来就可能引起一些争议，经理有不同的意见是可预期的，这并不代表我的能力不够好!” (2)“这一阵子以来他都在找我的麻烦，我就知道他看我不顺眼……”(强化负面讯息，遽下结论)。 请快快转个想法： “经理最近被老总盯得很紧，压力不小，对?都火气大了些，这个案子他不同意，并不代表他就不喜欢我。” 只要经常如此练习，你就再也不会庸人自扰，为着莫须有的念头伤透心力，当想法还原，心情自然就海阔天空。
Why do older people turn to sleep at night? In real life, in the daytime, old people always seem to be able to sleep at any time, not watching TV, or reading a newspaper in the last minute, and immediately falling asleep in the next minute. And at night, lying on the bed, but turned […]
Conditioning the stomach for a good time Symptoms of stomach pain are: often because of the cold weather, cold and cold food caused by pain, pain accompanied by cold stomach, warming symptoms relieved. The main cause of stomach pain is poor eating habits such as inadequate diet, often caused by cold drinks or cold food. […]
Let the donkeys keep talking every day. Too many people spend a lot of time getting into the gym to exercise, and few people are willing to take the time to pay attention to their own voice. Norman Hodgekyan of the University of Michigan Health System Research Center recently pointed out on the “Fun Science” […]
Meditate to eliminate stress and trouble About 10,000 people with various diseases of hypertension are treated every year. In addition to giving medicine to patients, doctors often teach them how to meditate cross-legged to eliminate mental stress and troubles. In many places, young women are popular in the fashion trend of “one-day nuns”. Many young […]